We’ve all faced those moments, haven’t we? Someone near us is facing something . . . an inexplicable crisis. An insurmountable challenge. A total injustice. A senseless something.
And we don’t know what to say.
We know it isn’t the time for cliches. It’s no time for “he lived a full life” or “he’s resting peacefully now.” It’s no time for “look on the bright side” or “but you’re better off for it.” No. Not “what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger” or “it’s going to get better soon.” And it’s not the time to point to theology because it’s a pain bigger than reason. Not the time for “this too shall pass.” None of that will do.
We don’t know what to say.
It’s also not the time for place-fillers. It’s not the time for activities to take the mind off things. Not the time for a shopping spree or a night out or a something or other.
In these moments, maybe it’s okay to say that we just don’t know what to say. Maybe it’s okay to say that, and to let that person know how much she is loved. How much he matters. That you’re praying the biggest prayers. That you admire her strength . . . and when she don’t feel like being strong anymore, that she can simply lean on you.
Maybe it’s okay that we don’t know what to say.
Maybe it’s okay that we say less and love more.
Related, I’m pulling out my prayer journal again. Can I pray for you? Comment here or email sarahkoci at gmail dot com.